To building walls! Even to build a castle, you need to start by first building the walls. As a therapist, I see no harm in building walls to protect oneself. Sounds rubbish? Yes, let’s not get offended already.
Imagine if I don’t have walls, how am I going to protect myself? From harm? From getting hurt? We need walls. There is nothing wrong with building walls. What is wrong is suffocating oneself inside those walls!
One doesn’t just close up on the outside world without a reason. It always happens with the consistent negative experiences that culminate in us deciding to shut off from the world and protect ourselves. It is a survival instinct that every living being possesses just the way a turtle disappears inside its shell when threatened and a mouse scrambles back into its burrow.
Having a survival instinct and protecting oneself is a positive thing, I feel. These experiences that make individuals build walls are there to teach something about life and people. We need to decode these experiences and understand how to deal with them in an effective way. Once we do that, you won’t need walls because you will be strong enough to handle it.
I am definitely not against building walls, but I want you to make sure that you have windows and doors and balconies also. Windows and balconies will allow you to stay in touch with the world, and if you meet people worth letting in, feel free to open the doors. Sometimes just open the door out of kindness for someone or maybe just to have another adventure.
Remember the problem is not the walls, the problem is caging oneself inside it! Cheers to building walls with beautiful windows and doors!